Thursday, January 12, 2012

My Dirty Little Secret

I have a confession to make.  Since I'm putting my personal self out there for you, I feel the need to make it right.

While I'm busy encouraging schools to start later, putting my kids to bed at a consistent hour every night and fighting to make high schoolers sleep needs a scheduling priority, I have not been practicing what I preach.  I am guilty of burning the midnight oil.  Well past midnight, I might add.

Maybe it's the New Year calling.  Perhaps it's the extra awareness I have of the sleep needs of others.  Falling asleep at red lights and losing patience with my kids is another sure sign that this situation must be remedied.  In any case, I don't want to cheapen this effort as a "resolution", but it is a personal declaration.  It is, in fact, a personal curfew.

If it's good enough for my kids and keeps them less cranky and much healthier, it's good enough for me.  So, for the last two weeks, I have given myself an official "lights out" at 11:30pm.  That is the absolute latest that I am allowed to stay up.

Unlike the old me, you will not find me on Facebook, checking email, completing writing assignments, folding laundry, using my computer or anything else after 11:30pm because I'll be asleep.  And that is the LATEST I'm allowed to stay up.  (I actually wrote this blog post the day after I planned to because I went to bed at 9:30pm!)

Perhaps the challenges of writing deadlines, a house full of young kids, school and extracurricular activities will force me to stay up as it did in the past.  However, perhaps by enforcing this curfew, I will be forced to reprioritize what really has to be done during the day instead of leaving it for the night and sacrificing my own sleep needs.

After seven consecutive years of dealing with a nursing baby or pregnancy (or both!), my kids are all older and they all sleep through the night.  So, the time is right for me to exercise that right as well.  Yes, contrary to popular belief, sleep is not a priviledge, but a necessity.
It has only been two weeks and I'm noticing things, even as my laundry pile grows and the paper monster attempts to bury my desk.
  • The sore throat I had for two weeks went away.
  • I find it very easy to say "no" to requests and prioritize what is important.
  • I crave less carbs and sugary snacks and I'm losing weight.
  • While I cook dinner, I can run a load of laundry, make a phone call, coach through homework assignments, keep the little ones entertained with arts and crafts and dance with my kids. 
I may be scrambling to get things done as I work them into a new routine and things certainly are not perfect (my kids have gotten clean clothes from the dryer and the dried out Christmas tree is still up), but now that sleep is a priority, I don't dread staying up past 1am to "get it all done".  Frankly, I'm inefficient at that time and only able to operate at 50% anyway.

My curfew is like an important appointment that I set for myself.  Just like a dental cleaning or a doctor's appointment, sleep is easy to put off, but hard to ignore in the long run.

This is another reason why www.StartSchoolLater.net has become such an important cause for me.  Sleep needs can no longer be ignored or dismissed as a luxury.

Who's with me?  Who wants to make sleep a priority this year?  Post your thoughts below and share your insights.  Just don't expect me to answer anything if it's past 11:30pm.

3 comments:

Terra Ziporyn Snider said...

I'm with you, Maribel, and after I post this I'm going to get ready for bed! Funny, too, because 11:30 was always my deadline, even when I was in high school (which in my day started well after 8:30 a.m., which left me time for breakfast and a long walk/bike ride to school before digging in to calculus class).

However, now that I've raised teens, I realize that keeping this bedtime means that I go to bed well before my kids, and that isn't always possible (or wise) when you have teens. So although I applaud you, I don't think I'll be able to be as good about this pledge as you, at least not until my son graduates from high school.

I also feel sad that I have the ability to make this pledge, and he doesn't. I don't know what to do about this. Oh, wait. Yes I do. I'm working for a later high school start time, one compatible with the sleep needs of everyone - including parents!

OddlyAdding said...

Thanks Terra! I know it will be a challenge when my kids are older and their circadian rhythms shift. I can only hope that if I start early enough, the shift won't be so bad.

I agree with you, it's high time we pay attention to the sleep needs of kids when determining their start times.

I'm also hoping that by time my oldest gets to high school, we can Start School Later!

Jocelyn Christensen said...

Sleep really is so important! I've learned that recently as I decided to stick to my "curfew" as well...but as writers, we often get our best writing time after everyone else is in bed! :) Thanks for stopping by my blog to support our common friend Edye! :)